Monday, March 14, 2005 Comments (7)
The Purpose of Marriage
I've been reading a book called, "The Power and Purpose of Marriage" and it got me to thinking - what do most people think the power and purpose of marriage are? What do I think they are (aside from what the book tells me)? Interesting stuff.
Feedback would be nice.
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I don't think there is a purpose. I think it's just a romantic IDEA - being tied to only one person for life. You dont need to be married to carry out the exact same relationship you can have if you remained "disjointed." I mean, a wedding is only materialistic anyway. A fancy wedding, rings, some words, everyone dressed up. What REALLY matters is the connection between the two individuals, not a ceremony.
I couldnt disagree more, jeremy. dont confuse weddings and marriage.
this subject is too deep for my simple words, but I'd say that the basic purpose of marriage is for the good of the husband and wife. without a total commitment, you are not as free to love and be loved as you ought to. sure you'll mess up, but the point of the commitment is to love eachother despite and through the crap.
I'm saying that the commitment should be there REGARDLESS if you obtain a marriage liscense or not. It's just a ritual, a ceremony, nothing more. You don't NEED to get married, you can carry on the EXACT same relationship without actually being "married" The only difference is you can't file jointly on your income tax. woo.
Are you totally missing my point here? The emotion and relationship should be there even if you don't have rings on our finger. And that's all a wedding/ marriage is, a liscense , some vows, and a pair of rings. You're still going to have the same feelings for each other the day before, day of, and day after the acutal wedding. Being "married" doesn't change that. But I think you're missing my point entirely.
I hate people.
a life-long loving commitment to one person is something that should have vows and ceremony and celebration. you're of course free to disagree, and I'm sorry that it appears you may never experience such joys.
it's not about feelings, it's not about tax incentives, or being "tied to only one person." it's about serving your love for your whole life, and being brave enough to make a vow to do so. I happen to believe that this vow should be taken before God. I have a feeling you dont share this view, which is probably the root of the differences.
I love people. especially my wife.
Thank you both for your comments. You've given me much to think about.
You don't feel the same way about your spouse the day before, the day of and the day after. All of us should know that emotions are fickle and change QUICKLY. Love is not romance and butterflies in the stomach (although those things are fun) they are not always going to be present and therefore can not hold a commitment together. Love is paitience and kindness and much more. It is a decision to sacrifice for another person on a level that never happens with someone that you are not with every day! Marriage is a union that pushes people to grow change and work through their crap, when before they could hide out, until it passed. It is a choice, to commit for life; therefore causing two people to work together, complete each other, and balance each other out- hopefully becoming more complete.
The wedding, yes it can be materialistic, but it can also be a beautiful place, where two people declare their lifetime commitment to each other before God and the people that love them. The people that will hopefully help them during the good and BAD of marriage. Yes, a wedding does not all of a sudden make two people connected, it is a public declaration of that connection. For life. Till death do you part.
Sember,
I've been thinking along those same lines for the past few years. I think above all, the commitment is the most sacred and important thing in a marriage. There will be days where you want to strangle your spouse, or maybe even walk away, but love is keeping that commitment, despite what you FEEL.
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